Being submissive, what does it mean? I am sure the answer must vary from person to person. I can only give my own opinion, and express my interpretation. I am no expert, and am fairly new to the submissive lifestyle, but I feel I have learned a few things.
I know that a lot of my friends and family would not understand the choice I have made. They would think he is a control freak, that I had been brain washed, that our relationship was perverse, a negative thing. They would find that I see him as my master and owner shocking. They would not understand that I could be happy. They would see it as unusual or weird, something unhealthy.
I would have to disagree, for many years men and women’s roles with in marriage were of a Dom/sub nature. The man as the decision maker and the woman devoted to her husband and happy to cherish and serve him. Maybe I am old fashioned, I like to serve my man, make him happy, for him to desire me, and have him look after me in return.
For a lot of people being submissive is a purely sexual thing and no more. A lot of people see it as whips and chains and slightly taboo. That is wonderful and I love to be sexually submissive, it really gets me off! But there is more to it. To me being submissive means something else, it’s giving my whole self to my partner, trusting him with my life and living by the belief that he will always do right by me. Allowing him to become my master, to give myself freely to him and allow him to own me, and do as he pleases with me. It’s knowing that he is wise and will guide me to develop into the best that I can be, he will help me to reach my full potential. It’s living by his will and devoting my life to him.
In order for our relationship to work, and for sir to take ownership of me we have to trust each other completely. We have to be open and honest about all things, I have never before experienced such feeling of trust or had such an honest relationship. It was little embarrassing at first but I soon felt that I had no reason to be embarrassed, he loved me. How wonderful to have a man in Your life that takes the time to really know you. He knows everything about me. How can a master guide and make choices in your best interests without knowing your feelings? A good master does not set out to hurt his sub or cause her distress ever. He treasures his possession and nurtures it. He sees it as his responsibility to look after her, after all for someone to give themselves to you is a privilege.
I am still learning, but I already know that I love belonging to my master, it brings me pleasure to make him proud, I love it when he shows me off to people. Part of submission is living by masters will, when I step out of line master will administer a suitable punishment. I know that this is for my own good and will thank him for it. A correction, helping to remind me of my place and to learn from my mistakes. If I stray from the rules I could jeopardise what we have. If I do not respect his decisions how can he mould me. I want to be moulded to be his perfect woman.
As a sub, I happily accept that along with the rest of me my body belongs to him. I do not modify my body in any way without his permission. I am his to use when ever and how ever he chooses, for his pleasure. He has the right to inspect my body and alter it as he pleases. I need to take on the physical appearance that he will enjoy looking at and find attractive. He will make my decisions and I will live by his choices, I will serve him and make him happy. He must be my priority.
What do I get out of all this?
I am already a better person, my future is brighter, I am cared for, looked after and loved. With master’s guidance I have learned many things about myself, including that I am a dirty cum whore, and it’s ok. I am very sexually fulfilled I get to spend my life with the man of my dreams. He is everything that I need.
I am happy.